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Now let's get to the calls. Hi, Dan. I love your column and your show. I am a 20-year-old

Hennaro College Girl and I'm calling because I recently started a relationship with a guy. I'll call

him Joe. Joe was visiting a good friend of mine and we hit it off but he was only here for a

weekend so nothing happened until he went back home.

We've been chatting and talking on the phone every day for about three weeks, and I feel really close to him.

But because of the distance, none of the physical milestones that I'm used to thinking about have happened.

I mean, there's no holding hands, no kissing.

You can't make out.

Anyways, for spring break, we've planned out two visits. And if the flirting on the phone is any guide, I think we're both interested in a physical

as well as an emotional relationship.

I'm worried though because I'm a virgin and I don't know how or if or when I should tell Joe.

A few makeouts that I've had in the past that were leading to sex ended when I mentioned my virginity,

I guess because the guy didn't want the pressure or something.

Anyways, I feel like it might be good to let Joe know that I don't really know what I'm doing.

I'm not expecting it to be perfect or anything. I would just maybe like to sleep with them. And I happen not to have slept with anyone before. So yeah, any advice you could give would be greatly appreciated. I don't get to talk to virgins very often being in my line of work. So even though I don't really have a follow-up question for this caller, we're going to give her a call just because I want to talk to the Last American Virgin. Hey, it's Dan Savage. Hi. How are you? I'm doing all right. Good. Still a virgin? Yeah. So nothing's happened between you recording the phone call for the podcast and me actually calling you back. Nothing's happened yet, no.

Okay, so this boy, you've been in this long-distance relationship, you're calling on the phone

all the time. If you were in town, if it wasn't long distance, you'd be like rolling around in a pile a little bit, and that's not happening because he's not here. Yeah, basically. And you're going away together. Yeah, this spring break we're going to be in the same town.

Is this a trip you've planned together to be in the same town, or are you just coincidentally enough going to be in the same town?

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