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Hey everybody. Welcome to Off the Vine. I'm your host, Caitlin Bristow. And today I think I fell in love with a woman. I really do. She was amazing. Her name is Sarah Shahi. And she is an actress, an author. And I just feel like her story goes much deeper than roles that we have seen her play. She is a light. She told me her favorite chapter to write in her book that's coming out was the chapter on

blowjobs, which I then realized she was the girl giving blowjobs to a carrot in the movie old school, and I didn't know it, and I brought it up, and she was like, that was me. Anyways, I'm getting off track as I do in this whole podcast, but while the show's sex life was blowing up, Sarah's real life was also blowing up and changing behind the scenes. And women around

the world started flooding her DMs, needing validation, needing permission, wanting to feel seen

and heard, which the connection kind of made her realize that she needs to write a book. And she

wrote it from a place of her life where it was really messy and not the highlight reel, not a

how-to, not a memoir, just like a messy place that you can

open up at any time of the day of any page in the book and feel seen. The book is called Life is

Lifey, which is just raw, funny, and an honest look at navigating motherhood relationships,

reinvention, all the things that any woman would want to read. So today we talk about identity,

desire, starting over, trusting yourself, blow jobs, and what path you're on and how it will always get better. So Sarah, welcome to Off the Vine. I don't know what it is. For me, I force myself to drink water. Yeah. But for some reason, like I don't like the taste, even though people are like, there is no taste I'm like, there is to me. Do you have to add stuff to it to like make it taste okay? But even the stuff I add to it, it doesn't taste okay because it's like this creatine powder and then it's the amino acids and then this other thing from my gut and it tastes terrible. Well, I hate you because your skin is so pretty and you don't drink water. Like I'm over here guzzling to try and get skin like you. No, I don't know what it is. My parents actually both, I look at their skin and I'm like, I won the genetic lottery with both my parents' skin. Yeah. But you beautiful skin. Oh, thank you. I mean, I'm sure it gets old in your world of like the fact that you started in

pageant world, I think at like eight years old. You dug deep. I dug really deep. You dug. Wow. What else are you going to uncover? Oh, my. I'm nervous. I like to do my research. But I'm like that. the beauty standards that you've probably had from such a young age is I feel like we'll get into that.

We'll get into that.

We'll get into that.

But yeah, it was different because I have a Persian mom who very much came from the world of less is more.

Yeah.

So while other kids were like piling on makeup and mascara at like eight or nine, she was taking hairspray and a toothbrush and like

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