This is a show about individual experience and personal identity.

There may be times when folks use identifying words or phrases that don't feel right to you.

That's part of what we're exploring here.

Please listen with an open heart, and as always, I welcome your polite, engaged feedback,

and I encourage you to continue the conversation in your own life and with your own community.

Welcome to Query.

Hey Query was Cammy here.

Today's guest, Sarah, Kayla of the Sounds Fake, but OK podcast about asexual identity,

very fricking cool to chat with the two of them.

Also, I am jazzed because we keep getting Patreon subscribers.

Y'all keep turning up to say that you want to spend like $5 a month or $1 a month,

or like $20 a month to support this show, and that is awesome.

If you would like to support Query and get some cool bonus,

prizes is not the right word perks, including a chat with Sarah,

where your producer Sarah and myself, every day month,

you can head over to patreon.com slash hey, where are those?

I'll see you there.

My dog back home wakes up at like 2 and 4 am, just ready to eat,

and she's also very old, so her toenails are very long.

Like an old woman would have, and so she just like clumps around the house.

Like my parents literally have blankets on their floor,

just permanently unusual vision of old women.

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