S3, Ep 3 Best Friend Therapy: Attachment Styles - What are they? How do they affect us? What do they mean for our relationships?
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Emma Reed Turrell
4.8 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 21 November 2022
⏱️ 50 minutes
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Summary
No, not the Velcro and poppers kind, but the way we *emotionally* attach to other people. We look at the work of psychologists like John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, to get a better understanding of the way we develop expectations of other people, and how we might have created emotional defences to protect our vulnerability.
We explain how strategies that set us up for safety in childhood might actually get in our way as adults, when it comes to making successful friendships, romantic relationships and professional connections.
Emma tells us a story about a picnic blanket and Elizabeth reminds us of those mice and their cheese machines that we first encountered in Season One.
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This week's references include:
"A Short Introduction to Attachment and Attachment Disorder" by Colby Pearce: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Short-Introduction-Attachment-Disorder-Second-dp-1785920588/dp/1785920588/ref=dp_ob_title_bk
The work of John Bowlby: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Bowlby
And Mary Ainsworth’s Strange Situation experiment: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Strange_situation
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Best Friend Therapy is hosted by Elizabeth Day and Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp.
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to Best Friend Therapy. I'm Elizabeth Day, author and |
| 0:05.8 | podcaster and for over 20 years I've been best friends with a therapist. |
| 0:10.5 | That's me. Hello, I'm Emma Reed-Tarell and I'm a psychotherapist. In my private |
| 0:15.2 | practice I talk to clients about the challenges they face in daily life and |
| 0:18.5 | we work together in a non-judgmental supportive space to increase their |
| 0:22.0 | sense of well-being. And as her BFF I get all the benefit of her expertise and |
| 0:27.0 | wisdom for free. Emma makes me feel better about life but also helps me to |
| 0:31.8 | understand why I act the way I do. Ah, thanks Liz. She's also one of the only |
| 0:37.2 | people allowed to call me Liz. We wanted to open the doors to our friendship and |
| 0:41.8 | throw a light on the therapy we all need in our everyday lives. Each week we |
| 0:46.5 | chat about what's on our minds to get deeper in our minds. Two best friends, one |
| 0:51.7 | therapist, no filter. That's Best Friend Therapy. |
| 0:57.8 | Hello and welcome to this week's episode of Best Friend Therapy with me |
| 1:02.2 | Emma Reed-Tarell and me Ronnie Coulbert. One for the 80s kids. Okay, no it's |
| 1:11.7 | Elizabeth Day here. Oh, shame. Just playing that. Okay, never mind. Maybe we can get |
| 1:16.2 | Ronnie on. It's Ronnie alive. No. No, we won't. Moving on, today we're going to be |
| 1:20.8 | talking about a subject that has come into so many of our episodes in one way or |
| 1:24.8 | another so far. But we wanted to dedicate an entire episode to talk about |
| 1:28.9 | something that is a fundamental therapeutic principle and part of our everyday |
| 1:33.6 | lives, every single one of us. And that is attachment. Yes, I'm so glad we're |
| 1:38.0 | talking about this because you first introduced me to the concept of |
| 1:41.8 | attachment. And since then it's really revolutionized my thinking in lots of |
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