S21E8: Dating Apps, D*ck Pics, and Sexts: Why We Need Digital Sexual Consent w/ Dr. Mindy DeSeta

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Relationships, Sexuality, Science, Social Sciences, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture

4.5 • 877 Ratings

🗓️ 7 October 2025

⏱️ 71 minutes

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Summary

Have you ever gotten that unwanted sexual message or pic on a dating app? You're certainly not alone, which is why we need to talk about digital sexual consent and what dating apps are doing about it. We're joined by Dr. Mindy DeSeta, a sexologist and advisor for the dating app Hily, to talk about the shocking types of messages that are sent without consent, what types of safeguards and precautions are being put in place to reduce unsolicited sexual behavior, and why consent actually can help heat up a connection on the apps when used intentionally. Follow Dr. Mindy DeSeta @drmindydeseta and check out: https://www.insight-miami.com/ Download the dating app Hily: https://hily.go.link/kuZOy Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/ HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Our Sponsors: * Bioma Health: Get 3 essential ingredients your gut needs at https://gobioma.com/DATEABLE * Blueland: Get 15% off cleaning products at https://blueland.com/dateable * Check out Knix and use my code DATEABLE for a great deal: https://knix.com * Happy Mammoth: Try Prebiotic Collagen Protein and Hormone Harmony risk-free AND get 15% off your order at https://happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE * Kensington Publishing: Check out House of Rayne by Harley Laroux wherever books are sold in print and in eBook. The gorgeous deluxe hardcover first printing is only available for a limited time so grab yours before they are gone: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com * Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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