S21E10: How To Be A SuperCommunicator On Your Next Date (Or In Your Relationship) w/ Charles Duhigg

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Relationships, Sexuality, Science, Social Sciences, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture

4.5 • 877 Ratings

🗓️ 21 October 2025

⏱️ 58 minutes

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Summary

Have you ever had a date where it felt like pulling teeth to have a conversation? Or a conflict with your partner where it felt like you were speaking different languages? Join us as we unravel the power of being a super communicator with Charles Duhigg, acclaimed author and expert on interpersonal dynamics. We discuss why communication is the key to chemistry and connection on dates, the three different conversations that can happen at the exact same time (without us even realizing), and techniques you can use to keep the conversation flowing on your dates, messages, and everything in between.

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