That's one of the most heartbreaking stories I've heard.

And yeah, like I said, I think just if you like mapped the way that I was processing that story,

and it was just not where I thought it was going to go at all.

And that's shitty.

Cornerstone memory is an anchoring moment that, if left unprocessed, can harden into a core belief.

People would say, oh, you need to just let it go and move on and forget about it.

And, you know, that never felt right to me.

It was Valentine's Day.

And my mom took me to Walmart and we bought one of those, like, you know,

those big perforated sheets of Valentine's scars that are like eight on a page.

And I noticed that the one that I had given to this young girl who I had, what I guess was at the beginnings of a crush on.

She had returned the card that I had given her and I opened it and looked at it.

And of course on the front it said, Happy Valentine's Day, I love you too.

And on the back she had written, I remember like getting that car and feeling so much or confusion.

Hi there, lovers. This episode is going to be pretty profound.

We're going to be talking about cornerstone memories, which in essence are experiences that can shape the way that we experience

life, but we're going to hyper focus on this podcast, of course, on the ways that these

memories can shape the way that we experience love. So a cornerstone memory is an anchoring

moment that, if left unprocessed, can harden into a core

belief.

Now, sometimes for some people, this can be a positive thing.

For example, having the cornerstone memory of being on the stairs and overhearing your parents talk about you in the kitchen

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