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S2 Ep135: My Mom Talked to Me About Sex, And It Made Me Rebel ft. Blair Imani

LOVERS by shan

LOVERS by shan

Sexuality, Society & Culture, Relationships, Health & Fitness

55.5K Ratings

🗓️ 3 September 2025

⏱️ 35 minutes

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Summary

What does it mean to be ready for motherhood? How do love, faith, and our relationship with our maternal figures shape our parenting?

In this honest and grounded conversation, educator, author, and activist Blair Imani shares her perspective on family planning, pregnancy loss, and the role of sexual education in real life. She opens up about having conversations with her partner around abortion as part of sexual health, and how her conversion to Islam continues to guide her through questions of timing, family, and faith.

We also dive into Blair’s relationship with her mom, and how that connection influences her hopes for becoming a parent herself. It’s a conversation about the choices we face when planning for a baby, the loss and love that come with it, and the bigger role faith, values, and family play in planning our future. 

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0:00.0

Growing up, my mom was very sex positive, but I think she also has her own relationship with sex,

0:07.0

and I was so confused of the other side.

0:09.0

Like, what's repression?

0:11.0

Right? I'm like, that sounds interesting.

0:13.0

Welcome.

0:14.0

Lary Mone, educator and content creator.

0:16.0

Author of Modern Hustery, and Read This to Get Smarter.

0:19.0

I actually had a miscarriage a few years ago. I think it was in 2018. I didn't plan to be pregnant and honestly, had that pregnancy continued, then I probably wouldn't have had an abortion. But I find it really important to talk about because everyone wants to talk about pregnancy and how exciting it is to be pregnant. There's not a lot of conversation about pregnancy lost or stillbirth

0:37.6

or miscarriage and yet those things are extremely common and something that a lot of people go through.

0:42.0

Experiencing that, I'm sure, is both like, oh, I can get pregnant and the extreme heartache and pain and loss.

0:48.0

What has been interesting about that is my own life journey, whatever, my mom's sex positivity, to me, sex is very private.

0:54.1

And I think

0:54.7

for a little while when I first converted Islam, that was a rebound reaction to feelings of

1:01.6

unworthiness as a sexually active woman. What do you mean unworthiness? Um, what's up baby, mama?

1:11.6

You know a feel?

1:12.4

Yes.

1:13.4

Thank you for coming.

1:14.8

I've been looking forward to this for a long time now, so I'm so happy that you're here.

1:18.6

I know that there are so many things we could talk about.

1:21.7

What do you feel called to talk about today?

1:24.4

Well, obviously the pregnancy, that's like a big thing.

1:27.0

And anytime I

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