Do you talk about polyamory quite a bit on here?

Um...

This person's capacity for connection is as giant as the ocean.

My capacity, I realized, is a teacup.

It sounds like monopoly, which is like where one person is operating in a monogamous way,

and the other person is polyamorous.

How many things can I deconstruct in one book before people are like, you've lost your mind.

Please welcome.

Alison Stoner.

Former child star turned mental health advocate and practitioner.

And author of semi-well-adjusted despite literally everything.

He was involved in a polyamorous dynamic and I had no exposure to that idea. In fact, I was coming from quite a shame-based, fearful place around a lot of things regarding intimacy. Very slowly, I found myself tiptoeing and just asking questions. That ended up shifting my life.

What I'm hearing is that knowing that they had other people to explore with,

allowed you to say, that's okay if I don't want to do that with you.

You could find somebody, get somebody else to do it.

Just saying the letters BDSM, I was like, oh dear.

Can I ask about people's outside perspective of this connection?

You look hot, let me just fan you off, you know.

Thank you.

Ooh, you have the advanced reader copy.

Yeah, feeling very special about it.

I need to talk to you about things that no one else is talking about. You believe it's magic.

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