S2 Ep124: He Was Never Going To Commit And Here's Why ft. Duckwrth

Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram

LOVERS by shan

Sexuality, Society & Culture, Relationships, Health & Fitness

5 • 5.5K Ratings

🗓️ 18 June 2025

⏱️ 57 minutes

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Summary

Why do fuckboys… fuckboy? In this episode, we dig into the root of it.

Just ahead of the release of his new single Permanent Vacation (dropping June 18), genre-bending artist Duckwrth joins Shan for a raw and revealing conversation on why some men detach, ghost, and repeat the cycle. Together, they unpack how fear of commitment, cultural conditioning, and childhood wounds can all contribute to the “Certified Loverboy” identity.

Duckwrth opens up about his own evolution—from polyamory and emotional avoidance to developing a deeper sense of self-awareness and desire for real connection.

If you’ve ever dated a fuckboy, been affected by one, or are reflecting on your own relationship patterns, this one’s for you.

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0:00.0	What relationship do you have to being an All-American fuck boy?
0:07.0	I think acknowledging that I've been that person.
0:10.0	I've acknowledging the level of hedonism that I allow for myself for a long time.
0:15.0	Yeah.
0:17.0	This is so crazy.
0:19.0	Um, sexual sport. Sex with sport. Damn, this is so crazy.
0:22.3	Sexual sport.
0:24.2	Sexal sport.
0:28.2	And, damn, it's really wild to confess it.
0:34.5	I just want somebody there to, like, play the role of girlfriend without going all the way.
0:36.5	Dougward in the building.
0:37.5	This is Dougher. He's a mother-moment. John would define artist. Dougward in the building. This is Dougler.
0:38.5	Little mama, what the kid?
0:39.9	John would define artist.
0:41.5	All-American fuckboy.
0:45.8	I've been so, like, I dropped it out of an all-American fuckboy.
0:47.6	Like, I thought it was going to be, like, bad for me.
0:49.6	Would it be, like, more interest?
0:58.0	And it's like, I think I had to start looking at female attention and female validation as a drug. And I am an addict.
1:01.0	Like, I have to look at it that way at this point.
1:03.0	To have all the information that you do, to have the trust of a vulnerable population
1:08.0	who lets you in because you don't appear to be like everybody else,
	...

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