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Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram

S2 Ep120: It Doesn’t End With Him - Jessie Woo on Love and Pursuing Great Sex After Sexual Assault

Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram

LOVERS by shan

Sexuality, Society & Culture, Relationships, Health & Fitness

55.5K Ratings

🗓️ 21 May 2025

⏱️ 69 minutes

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Summary


Reclaiming Intimacy: Jessie Woo’s Journey Beyond Trauma. Comedian and media personality Jessie Woo joins Shan for a powerful conversation about healing, love, and rediscovering sexual joy after surviving sexual assault. Jessie shares her painful story of her assault and her joyful story of her relationship with Jay Allen aka Mr Easter.


Now Jessie is on the path to reclaiming pleasure and building healthy relationships, offering hope and practical insights for anyone on their own journey of recovery. This episode explores the complexities of intimacy after trauma, the importance of self-love, and why your story doesn’t end with someone else’s actions.


At the end of the episode, trauma expert Jimanekia Eborn joins us to discuss why sexual assault is a community issue plus she give her hot take on the Diddy trial and some people’s harmful comments about Cassie. 


How do you reclaim love and pleasure after trauma? How do you support survivors in your life?


We discuss these questions PLUS we have a free resource for sexual assault survivors and those navigating grief called The Grief Registry.


Content Warning:


This episode discusses sexual assault and trauma. Listener discretion is advised.


If you or someone you know is a survivor of sexual assault, resources and support are available. Visit RAINN.org or call 800-656-HOPE.


Thank You Jessie Woo
https://www.instagram.com/thejessiewoo/
Jess a Couple Things Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmu_OLDekKoPr-TgAY8lYIg



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0:00.0

Oh, that's so, like, bad for me to say, like, because I feel like, oh, my God, I just so, it's, I've never said it.

0:08.7

Like, I've never said it out loud.

0:10.3

Say it again for me?

0:11.3

No.

0:14.4

I've just never said this.

0:16.2

Like, I feel basically, I've just been conditioned to have violence in the bedroom.

0:26.6

There's Jesse Wu.

0:28.6

Your sister.

0:29.6

Jesse Wu.

0:30.6

See me a name.

0:32.6

There's a group of people on the internet who know me from talking about Zuzzo, Zuzo-z-z-z-z-z-z-z-o. It's like, it's a very vulgar way of calling, of saying dick in Creole.

0:41.3

I was actually making jokes about my bad experiences, especially as a black woman, like, I should get the best love.

0:49.3

I should have the best sex. So I know that logically, logically, but that's not like messaging

0:57.6

that I grew up with. That's not messaging that I gave myself.

1:03.0

You don't have to have everything figured out to be loved and defined love. To be in the love

1:08.6

story of your life. Yeah. You don't have to sort through all the pain and the find love. To be in the love story of your life, you don't have to sort through all the

1:11.8

pain and the trauma alone. Yep. I look at what's going on now and the news and different trials

1:17.8

that are happening and just how kids, women are just not believing. Even men. I'm not the only

1:24.1

person. Somebody's going to watch this and be like, that's me, you know what I mean?

1:31.3

And I feel like that there's power in that.

1:33.3

Sack potse, not me.

1:37.3

All right, let's figure everyone to talk about.

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