S2 Ep 95: The Accidental Trap of Saying "Just Try Your Best"

Raising Good Humans

Voicing Change Media

Education, Kids & Family, Parenting

4.7 • 1.9K Ratings

🗓️ 2 December 2022

⏱️ 34 minutes

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I had a truly surprising lightbulb moment this week in my conversation with Dr. Joshua Sparrow about why saying "just try your best" could actually be harmful. Join me again in conversation with Dr. Joshua Sparrow, child, adolescent, and general psychiatrist; associate clinical professor of psychiatry at the Harvard Medical School; and supervisor for outpatient psychiatry services at Children's Hospital Boston. Sponsored by PM Pediatric Care: For more information about PM Pediatric Care and a list of locations, visitpmpediatriccare.com Skylight Frame: This has been SUCH a special gift for our family. Get $15 off your purchase of a Skylight Frame when you go SkylightFrame.com and enter code HUMANS KiwiCo: Give Awesome this holiday season with KiwiCo! Get your first month of ANY crate line FREE at kiwico.com/HUMANS. Produced by Dear Media This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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0:00.0	The following podcast is a deer media production.
0:06.9	Welcome to Raising Good Humans. I'm Dr. Alisa Pesman and today I'm excited for us to keep
0:14.3	talking with Dr. Joshua Sparrow. Right now we're talking about helping kids cultivate
0:19.6	positive self-regard and a particular parenting trap that is all too common. In fact,
0:26.3	in real time I realized it was something I hadn't thought about, which is the problem with saying
0:32.0	just try your best. Dr. Sparrow is a child adolescent and general psychiatrist. He's an associate
0:38.7	professor of psychiatry at the Harvard Medical School and the director of the Brazleton
0:43.6	Touchpoint Center and author of so many incredible parenting books and co-author of some extraordinary
0:51.6	parenting books with Dr. T. Barry Brazleton. Do not forget to subscribe to my new
0:59.9	exclusive premium content on Apple Podcasts. You just go to Apple Podcasts, go to Raising Good Humans
1:07.2	like you always do to get your podcast and you can click and I have exclusive content that isn't
1:13.2	on these regular episodes. It's more like a masterclass by topic and they're pretty short,
1:19.6	easy to digest. You get them every Wednesday. Right now the topic is discipline. The next
1:25.3	series is going to be all about cultivating resilience. Just go try it out. It's 2.99 a month
1:31.3	less than a cup of coffee. If you enjoy this episode don't hesitate to write a review and help me
1:37.3	spread the word. When kids and teenagers, even younger children interpret the world with the
1:44.7	least generous interpretation. There is an interpretation of the world, of a teacher's response
1:51.5	to them, of something that happened that day, of other people's perceptions, how you can support
1:57.5	kids to shift that perspective without disregarding that perspective as their lived experience.
2:10.6	I guess I think about it as the capacity for positive self-for-guard. I think that's what you're
2:16.4	talking about, the capacity for positive self-for-guard. You were talking about other metaphors. I think about
2:23.6	that as being a ship in the seas and sometimes it's clear sailing and sometimes there's a storm
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