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Welcome to Raising Good Humans. I'm Dr. Alisa Pressman and today's episode we're talking about

dads and daughters with my friend Kimberly Wolf who's an educator and who just wrote a book called

Talk With Her. A dad's essential guide to raising healthy, confident, and capable daughters.

As always, if you can take the time to write a review, of course give a nice rating, subscribe,

and always DM me on my Instagram at Raising Good Humans podcast. We're going to have a listener

Q&A next week, so I'll be taking your questions direct for my messages. Don't forget to subscribe

to dralisa.bulletin.com. And now we're going to have a great conversation on fathers and daughters.

So Talk With Her is a comprehensive guide to girlhood for dads.

And it's based on my years of research and experience in the field, expert perspectives,

insights from leading researchers and interviews with fathers and daughters about

father-daughter relationships and what matters and what gets across and what girls want to know

and how dads feel. And I think that one of the things that sticks out so much to me in my research

and was such a surprise to me at the beginning of my research was that fathers really didn't realize

how much they were doing right. They are seen culturally as the backup parents still,

even in these generations where fathers want to be more involved.

Research shows us that most people think that a parent should stay home with the kids,

and that if there's a parent who stays home from the kids, that parent should be female,

that parent should be a mother. Fathers are doing three times the amount of child care that they

were doing in the 60s. And they see fatherhood and parenthood as a core part of their identity.

But society doesn't see it that way and fathers feel that and all parents feel that. And so it

creates a lot of tension. And when girls enter young adulthood and there's this natural

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