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Welcome to Raising Good Humans. I'm Dr. Alisa Pressman and today we are going to have a

conversation about confidence. What we know from research helps support confidence, why it's

important, and the mistakes that we're making innocent as they are well-meaninged as those mistakes

in raising confident kids. We're also talking about perfectionism. We know perfectionism is a high

risk, especially kids today, and there are concrete ways that we can help reduce perfectionism in kids,

while still helping them feel motivated and excited to excel. I have a subscription for

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on timely topics and for a very small, hopefully manageable fee, you can do a premium subscription,

and I'm going to be meeting with the community, having live conversations,

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who send me a DM with just a picture of the receipt for your order for the new subscription,

I'm going to be sending you one of those fantastic mugs. I look forward to continuing all of our

conversations in a more connected way. Now on to our really important conversation about

raising confident kids. I have a return guest, Dr. Michelle Borba, who's an educational

psychologist, and New York Times bestselling author. Her latest book, Thriveurs, is now available

in paperback, and it's a really wonderful guide to address the staggering increase in anxiety,

stress, and emptiness for children from preschool to high school. We're going to talk specifically about

one of the topics, confidence and perfectionism, which is sort of a subcategory of confidence.

We all need this conversation. Let's start by defining confidence so that we're on the same

page about what we're talking about, because this gets so misunderstood. Confidence is that

wonderful inner belief of who you are. It doesn't really need any valuation, but it's a

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