S2, Ep 12 Dial Emma: Friendship Accountability - is it me, or is it them?
Friendship Therapy
Emma Reed Turrell
4.8 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 4 October 2024
⏱️ 15 minutes
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Summary
This week, our Dial Emma caller wants to talk about accountability in friendship. Should we adjust our expectations when friends let us down, or should we hold them to higher standards? Why is there often less accountability in friendship compared to romantic relationships?
In this episode, and in the absence of a friendship HR department, jury or ombudsman, Emma encourages this listener to ask a simple question that might open up a much more honest conversation: is it me that’s not okay, or is it this situation that is not okay?
Emma also explores why accountability and deep connection are not always a given in friendship, and why we need to get curious about what we are willing to offer as a friend and, crucially, what we need from friendship.
What advice would you give this listener?
We'll be back with season 3 very soon, so please keep sending in your dilemmas for Emma to respond to! Drop us a voicenote on Instagram @friendshiptherapypod.
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| 0:30.0 | Welcome to this episode of Dial Emma from Friendship Therapy, the part of the show where you get to |
| 0:36.8 | well Dial Emma with your Dile Emma. Yeah, you see what I did though. You share your friendship |
| 0:42.0 | concerns and I share my reflections as a therapist to give |
| 0:45.2 | you the tips and tools you need to build better bonds. Okay, enough from me. Over to you. |
| 1:02.0 | Hi, so in my experience I've noticed that some friends don't seem to take the role in my life so seriously, cheating the relationship more like a convenience or transaction. |
| 1:06.0 | And this has left me feeling heart and let down. |
| 1:08.9 | A close friend forgot my birthday and dismissed my feelings. |
| 1:12.2 | It highlights a larger issue for me. |
| 1:14.0 | Friendships are important, yet they often lack the accountability we see in |
| 1:18.9 | romantic or professional relationships. There's something normalized a casual approach to friendship that feels unfair. |
| 1:27.6 | So my question is, should I adjust my expectations to fit this normalise casual approach to friendships or should I advocate for deeper |
| 1:37.5 | accountability and hold my friends to higher standards. |
| 1:42.6 | Okay well firstly I think you make a really good point. |
| 1:49.6 | Where is the justice? |
| 1:51.6 | Where are the justice? Where are the consequences? |
| 1:54.6 | When it comes to friendships, as you say, there's no HR department, there's no |
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