S18E3: Nice Guys Finish First w/ Vince Xu

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Relationships, Sexuality, Science, Social Sciences, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture

4.5 • 877 Ratings

🗓️ 13 March 2024

⏱️ 78 minutes

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Summary

We've been told nice guys finish last, but we're debunking this myth as we chat with return guest Vince Xu about how being the nice guy actually is what got him the girl. We discuss how we need to reframe "the nice guy" and "fboy" tropes, ways that good guys can make their intentions known in a way that builds chemistry, and how as women dating men we can look at the overall character of the person we're dating. Follow Vince @vincexu and check out 'Fuckboy Island" Join our Finding Your Person Program! https://www.findingyourperson.com/ Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts. Related Episodes: The One Who Got Away w/ Vince Xu and Yurika Yoneda How to Fail At Being A F*ckboy w/ Kane Holloway Inside The Psyche of a F*ckboy w/ Martin Morrow This episode is sponsored by: BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE Last Bottle Wines: Get 10% off your first order with the code DATEABLE at https://www.lastbottlewines.com/ Hinge: Download Hinge and try voice prompts today at https://hinge.co/ Armoire: Get 50% off your first month of your clothing rental membership, up to $125 off using the code DATEABLE at https://armoire.style/refer/dateable/ VIIA: Get 15% off + one free sample of their sleepy Dreams gummies. (21+) at https://viiahemp.com/ using the code DATEABLE Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE is available for pre-order now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Meeting People IRL Kickstarter - CLOSES August 31st and get $10 OFF now through then! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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0:00.0	Hi I'm Yui Shue and I'm Julie Kraftchik. We're active daters turn dating sociologist.
0:05.6	Here to dive into everything modern dating and relationships.
0:09.1	Welcome to the dateable podcast. Hey, hey, we're so excited to be back.
0:18.1	Are you excited, Julie?
0:19.3	Are you ever not excited?
0:20.3	I'm always excited to be back.
0:22.1	Yeah, I want to hear a week where you're like,
0:24.4	I fucking don't want to be here.
0:26.4	Oh, you're so not excited.
0:28.0	Your go-no shit is in bad shape when I'm like,
0:30.5	hi guys, things are not good over here.
0:34.6	Yeah, that's when we're not going to do this podcast
0:38.2	and I'm going to make a house call.
0:40.9	Something is seriously up, but I know you're extra excited because we're headed to
0:45.1	South by Southwest this week. This is our favorite event. I don't know, I'm speaking
0:49.5	for us. Keep speaking for us. I will just speak for myself. I go sad at all.
0:54.0	Legit, our favorite event of the year, I don't even know how you would describe it.
1:00.0	It's like half conference, music festival,
1:02.8	film festival, networking, extravaganza.
1:06.7	It sounds kind of weird in some ways,
1:09.4	it's a conference.
1:10.3	Like I was talking to a friend that is actually going for work and she was kind of piss because she's like I have to go on a Saturday to this conference and I was like no you were so lucky that you're going to this conference you don't even understand but then I was like
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