S16E6: Why You're Choosing The Wrong Partners w/ Psychotherapist Marc Sholes

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Relationships, Sexuality, Science, Social Sciences, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture

4.5 • 877 Ratings

🗓️ 22 March 2023

⏱️ 66 minutes

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Summary

What happens when your "type" doesn't seem to work, yet you keep gravitating towards people with similar characteristics over and over again? We're here to learn how to reset our romantic GPS with Mark Sholes so we don't keep steering toward the wrong partners. We discuss how attachment style plays into the partners you choose, when to work through a rough patch vs. accept it's not the right partner for you, and how to start making different choices that lead to different outcomes for your love life. Learn more about Marc's work at https://www.marcsholeslcsw.com/ and check out his book 'Reset Your Romantic GPS' Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts. This episode is sponsored by: Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order. Hers: Get access to medical providers for help with anxiety and depression. For more information visit forhers.com/spring Nux Activeware: Get 20% off your purchase at nuxactive.com and use the code DATEABLE20 at checkout. Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE is available for pre-order now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Meeting People IRL Kickstarter - CLOSES August 31st and get $10 OFF now through then! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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0:00.0	Hi I'm U.S. Schu. And I'm Julie Kraftcheek.
0:03.2	We're active daters turned dating sociologists.
0:06.5	Here to dive into everything modern dating and relationships.
0:10.6	Welcome to the dateable podcast.
0:15.0	What's up friends?
0:17.0	What's up friends?
0:18.0	Welcome back.
0:19.0	We are back from South by Southwest.
0:21.0	And I think we're still on a high, but not high
0:24.8	in the sense of one of our friends thought
0:27.4	we were literally high at the event.
0:30.0	You always like, why is she messaging me about that?
0:33.5	I'm like, I think I actually said that, but not in that context.
0:37.3	We were just on a high of being so inspired creatively.
0:41.7	That was our creative high. We were not smoking, eating, snorting, shooting,
0:47.8	none of that. Because it was such a natural high. This is, I don't know about you Julie this is by far my favorite
0:54.4	event oh yeah ever gone to it's a combination of a conference music festival
1:01.1	film festival comedy, and just some of the best networking a creative
1:06.8	can do.
1:07.8	So I've gone two years, U.A. has gone longer, and we went in 2019.
1:12.3	We were supposed to go in 2020, but you all know how that goes.
1:15.6	So 2019 we go and UA and I had the best time ever.
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