S16E10: Taking Sexual Attraction Out Of The Equation

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Relationships, Sexuality, Science, Social Sciences, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture

4.5 • 877 Ratings

🗓️ 19 April 2023

⏱️ 70 minutes

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If you were to take sex and attraction off the table, what does it mean to have a relationship? We're diving in with David and Yasmin about their experience being asexual and how that plays into dating, relationships, and falling in love. We discuss what it's like not to experience sexual attraction in a world so driven by it, the difference between being asexual and aromantic, and how you can have a relationship that works for you. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts. This episode is sponsored by: Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order. BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE is available for pre-order now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Meeting People IRL Kickstarter - CLOSES August 31st and get $10 OFF now through then! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-podcast/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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0:00.0	Hi I'm Ewie Schu and I'm Julie Kraftchik.
0:02.8	We're active daters turn dating sociologist.
0:05.4	Here to dive into everything modern dating and relationships.
0:09.0	Welcome to the dateable podcast. dating, future dating, old dating, traditional dating, bad dating, good dating, we talk about all facets of dating.
0:27.0	Never run out of topics, never, never, and I think today we're going into a topic that I would say when we first started this
0:34.8	podcast we probably would never imagine that we'd be going here to a sexuality, but I'm so glad that we
0:41.6	It was kind of on our wish list, I think in season two or three, we put out a wish list to our community to see who would be interested and no takers at that point but we're so glad that we were able to find
0:55.1	people in the community who are willing to share their experiences on a topic that Julie and I know nothing about after this interview we realize we know even
1:07.6	less like we just there's so much more to learn and it's a great way to open up your perspective on dating because what if the
1:17.6	romantic side of dating was not a default what if you didn't date for that romantic partner? What would be your why in
1:25.5	dating? Yeah and sexual side is out. I feel like that's such a reason why people
1:31.0	date and talk about that you know it's like a friend but we're sexually attracted to each other, but in the world of asexual dating that doesn't need to be there.
1:40.0	So I love thinking about like what is it to the core of dating and being in a relationship
1:45.3	when you strip out all of that.
1:47.6	And this episode is really for everyone because it expands that definition.
1:53.0	We're not saying that you need to stop wanting sexual connection,
1:57.3	but it's a good way to at least think about things differently.
2:00.5	As with everything we do on this podcast, it's about being more expansive mindset and not putting yourself in a box because I think for so many years of dating I felt very restricted by my own way of thinking.
2:16.1	You only know what you know that's the problem.
2:18.6	And when you have the mindset that you know everything already,
2:22.0	then you don't open up yourself to what could be.
2:25.8	Yeah and I'm glad I actually am thinking back to when we did the Facebook live for Pride.
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