S13E17: The Decision to Have Kids (or Not) w/ Kate Kennedy

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Social Sciences, Sexuality, Science, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Relationships

4.7 • 910 Ratings

🗓️ 8 December 2021

⏱️ 80 minutes

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Whether you know you want children, desire to remain child-free, or are completely conflicted, we're going to dig into all the hesitations, fears, and realities of the decision to have kids with Kate Kennedy. We discuss how #momlife culture plays into the perceptions of parenthood, the paradox of being ready later in life, and why it's perfectly OK to be unsure about this major life decision. TW: This episode discusses miscarriages Follow Kate @bethereinfive and @bethereinfivepodcast. Listen to Be There in Five on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or your favorite podcast player. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard Thank you to our partners for this episode: BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE Story worth: Create a personalized gift perfect for the holidays! Get started right away with $10 off your first purchase: Storyworth.com/dateable FirstLeaf: Join today and get 6 bottles of wine for $29.95 and free shipping at tryfirstleaf.com/dateable and use the code DATEABLE. ZocDoc: Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE Our Sponsors: * Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and furniture sale: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/DATEABLE * Get Rain of Shadows and Endings wherever books are sold or at Kensington Publishing https://www.kensingtonbooks.com * Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable * Ruggable: Get 10% off your first order, sitewide, with promo code DATEABLE at https://ruggable.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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0:00.0	The dateable podcast is an insider's look into modern dating that the
0:04.8	Huffington Post calls one of the top 10 podcasts about love and sex. On each
0:09.5	episode we'll talk to real daters about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper
0:15.3	fetishes, and first moves to first loves.
0:17.8	I'm your host, U.S.U.
0:19.4	Former dating coach turned dating sociologist.
0:22.0	You also hear from my co-host and producer Julie Kraft chick
0:25.2	as we explore this crazy datable world.
0:28.1	What's up everyone? Welcome to another episode of the
0:33.9	dateable podcast where we dive into modern dating and try to help you explain
0:39.4	why people do the shit that they do and say the things that they do while we're all trying to navigate
0:44.5	modern dating ourselves.
0:46.0	That is true and then one of the things that is always lingering with modern dating is the future, right?
0:52.2	To get married, to have children, all the stuff that comes after
0:55.8	dating and you know we've heard a lot of people even say like there's a lot of pressure
1:00.0	in dating because I know I want to have kids or I don't want to have kids or I'm not sure if I want to have kids and that how do I find someone that's on the same page?
1:09.0	It's one of those things that feels like you're really putting the card and go ahead of the horse, but in reality that it is a necessity to think about because it is so essential to lifestyle and future and ultimate compatibility, I think.
1:23.5	You get to a certain age where I don't know for me I all of a sudden woke up one day and was like oh my
1:28.5	God this is a real thing I really got to think about if I want kids or not you know in my early 20s it was just like yeah in the future I'll think about it I'm sure I'll have them it'll just be a given but I think I don't know let me think when I hit 35 was probably when it got real because that's kind of like the last year that you should
1:47.1	freeze your eggs if you wanted to and then really having that conversation with your partner
1:52.3	Do we want to have kids?
1:53.7	We do, we probably should start trying now.
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