From Thanksgiving to the Chinese term Sheng nu (which translates to "leftover woman"), we're discussing the pressure we often get from family, society, and even internally to settle down by a certain age with comedian Bernice Ye. We discuss how to tell your family to respectively back off when it comes to your love life, why we can't let labels shape our identity, and how to let go of the pressure and enjoy life. Follow Bernice @bernicecomedy and check out her tour schedule https://www.berniceye.com/ Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard Thank you to our partners for this episode: BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE Incipio: For 20% off your devices from phones to airpods to tablets, visit incipio.com and use the code DATEABLE Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE Our Sponsors: * Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and furniture sale: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/DATEABLE * Get Rain of Shadows and Endings wherever books are sold or at Kensington Publishing https://www.kensingtonbooks.com * Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable * Ruggable: Get 10% off your first order, sitewide, with promo code DATEABLE at https://ruggable.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy