S12E7: Toxic Masculinity

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Relationships, Sexuality, Social Sciences, Science, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 910 Ratings

🗓️ 24 March 2021

⏱️ 74 minutes

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Summary

Turns out the patriarchy isn't just harmful to women but also to freakin' men as we learn from talking to Joseph about his experience not fitting into 'bro culture' yet still falling victim to masculine values that ultimately hurt his relationships. We discuss why 'locker room' talk can be so problematic, the challenges that come with suppressing emotions and not asking for help, and how to redefine masculinity to become a better man. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard Thank you to our partners for this episode: Apostrophe: Get $15 off your first visit with a board-certified dermatologist with the code DATEABLE at apostrophe.com/dateable BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE Gobble: Get 6 meals for $36 plus free shipping visit gobble.com/dateable Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE Our Sponsors: * Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and furniture sale: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/DATEABLE * Get Rain of Shadows and Endings wherever books are sold or at Kensington Publishing https://www.kensingtonbooks.com * Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable * Ruggable: Get 10% off your first order, sitewide, with promo code DATEABLE at https://ruggable.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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0:00.0	The dateable podcast is an insider's look into modern dating that the
0:04.8	Huffington Post calls one of the top 10 podcasts about love and sex. On each
0:09.5	episode we'll talk to real daters about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper
0:15.3	fetishes, and first moves to first loves.
0:17.8	I'm your host, U.S.U.
0:19.4	Former dating coach turned dating sociologist.
0:22.0	You also hear from my co-host and producer Julie Kraft chick
0:25.2	as we explore this crazy datable world.
0:28.1	Hello everyone, welcome to another episode of Datable, a show all about modern
0:36.9	dating where we dig into the wise of people's behavior as we look at society as a whole and I say that with emphasis
0:46.8	because of all the shit that went down in this past week. Julie I'm just
0:51.6	outraged by everything that's been going on in the news and I still can't believe
0:57.6	that we've come full circle back to the starting point of where all this happened at the beginning of COVID where there was all that
1:06.8	Asian discrimination with COVID being the kung flu and all that bullshit and look at us a year later.
1:17.0	Not only do those do those stereotypes and hurtful words still exist, but they've now resulted in deaths and homicide.
1:27.0	I think this is just, I'm at a loss for words at where we are in the US right now because you know I came to the
1:36.1	states when I was eight years old so I was not born here and the year I left was the
1:41.3	year of the Tiananmen Square massacre and I was in Beijing when this happened.
1:46.2	I was in school when we heard gunshots and they took us out of school and I remember being on the school bus and seeing people with bloodied faces on the street.
1:56.0	And I remember going poem to my mom asking her what was happening.
2:00.0	She said, don't worry, we'll be in the US soon, it'll be safe for us.
2:03.5	And I can't believe here we are feeling extremely unsafe and
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