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The majority of audio from this episode is from the first interview I conducted with Sarah in August of 2018, also the first day we met.

It was about 10 weeks after Sarah was supposed to be married. This was the

first time Alyssa or I had heard the full story. And though I have put many, many hours into cleaning

this recording up for the podcast, you may hear more sighs, chair moving, interrupting, and pacing

than usual. But it's real life, and it's insane, and here we go. I'm Tiffany Reese,

and this is, something was wrong. You think you know me, you don't know me at home. Thinking of me, you don't know me well.

And so he had me My own real experiences.

And it really, really pulls the rug out from under your identity because it caused you to question your entire childhood.

Stuff that I held as dear that I had seen as physical proof.

Now I'm thinking, was my life a lie?

I honestly, I mean, it really, really wrecked me. And it can start to kind of turn you into a shell

of a person, because your past really does build you into who you are. So she, this, you know,

my boss's wife was sitting me down and saying, I know you. I know what makes you you and I know why people love you. And, you know, my boss's wife is sitting me down saying, I know you. I know what makes you you and I know why people love you.

And I am seeing that those are the things that are changing.

That is not something that should change in a healthy relationship.

It should grow.

It should flourish.

It should be stronger.

You should be given space to develop and this is opposite of that.

And yeah, praise hands.

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