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Nobody Should Believe Me

S04 Ep09: Cleaning Up The Mess

Nobody Should Believe Me

True Story Media

True Crime, Personal Journals, Society & Culture

4.32.3K Ratings

🗓️ 15 August 2024

⏱️ 46 minutes

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Summary

In the aftermath of Donna’s death, Jo returns home to Hutchinson to plan their mother’s funeral and clean up her mess one final time. As Jo and their sister Crystal sort through the detritus of the filthy, overstuffed apartment where Donna spent her final days, they come across strange artifacts, including letter from Jo’s childhood self.  We also talk to therapist and Complex PTSD specialist, Carly Ostler about the complexities of grieving for an abusive parent and why they can have an even stronger hold on their children than loving parents. *** Links/Resources:  Preorder Andrea's new book The Mother Next Door: Medicine, Deception, and Munchausen by Proxy Click here to view our sponsors. Remember that using our codes helps advertisers know you’re listening and helps us keep making the show! Subscribe on YouTube where we have full episodes and lots of bonus content. Follow Andrea on Instagram for behind-the-scenes photos: @andreadunlop Buy Andrea's books here. To support the show, go to Patreon.com/NobodyShouldBelieveMe or subscribe on Apple Podcasts where you can get all episodes early and ad-free and access exclusive bonus content. For more information and resources on Munchausen by Proxy, please visit MunchausenSupport.com The American Professional Society on the Abuse of Children’s MBP Practice Guidelines can be downloaded here. Learn more and follow therapist Carly Oster. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

True Story Media

0:05.4

Before we begin, a quick warning that in this show, we discuss child abuse, and this content may be difficult for some listeners.

0:14.6

If you or anyone you know is a victim or survivor of medical child abuse, please go to munchausensupport.com to connect with professionals

0:21.4

who can help.

0:26.0

One of the reasons that I wanted to share Joe's story this season in full and really go deep on their

0:36.9

entire process that they've been through in the past few years

0:40.2

is because I wanted to look at the after effects of this abuse. And in previous seasons,

0:48.8

we've talked a lot about investigations into medical child abuse and looking at evidence and looking at what children are going through when they're experiencing this abuse.

1:03.4

And this has been our chance to really look at what it is like to survive this abuse.

1:10.5

What does life look like after this was

1:13.9

your childhood? I think in some sense, both Joe and I knew that Donna's death was going to be

1:23.9

this ultimate hurdle that they were going to have to go through at some point. And it was

1:31.6

this looming thing that Donna would always have these brushes with death and then survive them.

1:38.6

And so it was just sort of this cycle. And that when that cycle finally ended, it might be freeing on some sense, but in the

1:45.9

immediate aftermath, it was really going to bring all of these things that have been building

1:52.9

up in Joe their entire life. It was going to bring them right to the surface. I think this has really

1:59.1

given us an opportunity to get away from thinking about, oh, it's this many

2:05.8

surgeries and it's this many lies, and it's just sort of this laundry list of horrible things

2:11.3

that happen to a child.

2:12.5

And obviously, whenever I'm covering these cases, I try not to cover them in that way.

2:16.5

I really try and focus on the

2:17.8

humanity of all of the people involved. And I think you don't see how this affects someone on a human

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