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🗓️ 20 June 2022
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0:00.0 | So Bob, people sent in a lot of emails specifically for you, some of them about some deep stuff |
0:07.6 | that we've gotten into before. So I thought we'd read those emails, but first I have one |
0:14.1 | light question for you that's not long time patron Kevin from Bellingham just north of us. |
0:19.7 | Email then said, Bob, you admitted your favorite show was Frazier, was Niles emotionally cheating |
0:27.1 | on Maris for most of the show's series. I have been to be rewatching the show right now and |
0:33.6 | I see Niles behavior differently. I was wondering what Bob's take was on this. What do you say? |
0:39.7 | Boy, I never thought about it, but absolutely. Yeah, he's like his emotional and sexual energy |
0:47.2 | are going outside. His marriage doesn't matter whether or not the other person's interested. |
0:52.4 | His energy is going out, so he's carving a window and he's creating a wall. That's worthy of |
1:00.6 | talking about. If that were, say, my client who found themselves doing that, I wouldn't advise |
1:07.3 | anybody to do anything, but I'd point out that that were the case and I'd invite them into the |
1:10.9 | possibility that they could maybe talk about their spouse about the fact that they notice their |
1:17.9 | attention is moving away or that they're dissatisfied with some aspect of what's happening between |
1:23.7 | them and their partner. Maybe it'd make a difference, maybe it wouldn't, but it certainly would be |
1:29.7 | honest. I think self-respect requires that and also respect a partner requires both those things. |
1:38.0 | Once you sign on with somebody, you really do sign on. You're not responsible for having feelings |
1:44.4 | like Niles does about going outside the marriage. You're not responsible for noticing that you have |
1:50.4 | that impulse, but you're responsible for what you do with it. So yeah, I think he is cheating emotionally. |
1:56.2 | Cheating is too strong a word, but I think he's. Yeah, I think cheating. I mean, right? |
2:02.7 | If Maris had known what he was doing, it would have hurt anyone. Yes, it would totally, |
2:10.4 | yeah, it is betrayal. Yeah, yeah. Well, one Kevin from Bellingham, my brother, Kevin, |
2:20.4 | has lived in Bellingham for 30 years or so. If you want to go see him, he works at a bar, |
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