Hey, oh, oh, oh, come on and take a seat on the virtual couch. Hey, everybody. Welcome to episode 305 of the virtual couch. I'm your host, Tony Overbay. I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist, a certified mindful habit coach, writer, speaker, husband, father, four, ultramarathon runner, and creator of the Pathback, an online pornography recovery program that is helping people reclaim their lives from the effects of

turning to pornography as a coping mechanism. And last week I did an episode. It was part one of two.

Today is not part two. That will be coming in a week from now. But I did part one of two of just

how to get the shame out of turning to unhealthy coping mechanisms in general. Yes, we were talking

about pornography,

but as the feedback that I got attested to, that the turning to unhealthy coping mechanisms does fit for anything, whether it's turning to food or your phone or binge watching shows

on any of the streaming services. So we've got part two coming up next week, and I have

received several questions. So if you have questions, coming up next week and I have received several

questions. So if you have questions, go to tonyoverbay.com and click on the contact me or

contact us or some sort of contact form. And feel free to ask your questions. If there are things

that I can answer and I will cover those in next week's episode. But today we are going to talk

about context. And I have been speaking a lot lately

and I have been starting most of the talks. I usually have some fun facts about the differences

of men and women and how their brain works. And that's always fun because we really do work a

little bit differently. And I'll give you an example of that. Let me,

let me talk about one that I share often. Actually, I'll give you a couple. These are really fun.

And the first one is a neuropsychologist, Professor Ruben Gerr of the University of Pennsylvania,

used brain scan tests to show that when a man's brain is an arresting state, at least 70% of its electrical activity

is shut down. Scans of women's brain showed 90% activity during the same state. He said

confirming that women are constantly receiving and analyzing information from their environment.

And then my bit that follows is that if I would make the joke that if I'm working with a couple

and I've been working with

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