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Music Hello and welcome back to Big Mood Little Mood.

I'm your host, Danny Lavery, and with me in the studio this week, literally in the studio

this week.

It's very exciting.

Is Julia Mouncy, a director and writer whose work is going to involve saying so much German

and I'm going to give it my best.

Her work has been presented at Under the Radar at the Public Theater, Soho Rep, Jack Dixon Place, the Radical Jung Festival at the Munich Volks Theater, and the Deutsche Schaelspielhaus in Hamburg. Nailed it. I should have said Hamburg at the end. I didn't make the dismount quite, but... Close enough. i'm just excited that you're here i'm proud

that you're here i feel good that i spoke so much german just now i'm glad that you weren't part

of the i guess moderate young festival no i'm radical and i'm young technically i appreciate that

i also want our listeners to know if i sound different today it's because i'm'm wearing a thumb ring. I don't usually do that. And I feel like it's going to, it's going to add something to the advice. I just want you to know today if this is your letter that we're answering, you are going to be getting advice from one person wearing a thumb ring. And that really... What's it going to do? It's going to make you more forceful, more authoritative? It's like a certain kind of like really wonderfully gross guy that I love who's like maybe adjacent to like beachcomer culture. It's very, you're sort of like outing yourself as being from California. It is. I don't always do this. Like I don't often bust out. I have a bunch of like fucked up guy rings that I only wear when I'm

really like feeling myself. Totally. And it really, it changes the way that I walk. I think the

minute weight of a thumb ring changes your whole gate. You're leaning over. You're mostly,

leaning to one side. You're mostly prancing. It does lead to prancing, which I think is necessary

because. Prancing. Interesting. Yeah, but like, you know, self-ass to prancing, which I think is necessary because...

Prancing, interesting.

Yeah, but like, you know, self-assured prancing. Self-assured prancing. Yeah, prancing with solidity to it, not mincing, which is special, but it requires different jewelry. Right. I'm going to try that, a self-assured prance. I think you could absolutely pull that off. Yeah. You very much, very much to me feel like a person who has recently been turned into a person from a deer. Like by a fairy of some time. Right. So it would, so self-assured prancing might come naturally to me. Yeah, like your first day or two, there's a lot of tottering. But then you've got the prancing, the mincing, you've got all kinds

of gates open to you. Have you seen that meme that's like every girl is either a deer, a bunny, a cat, or something else? I have not seen that meme. You've seen that? It says, or something else. But I really like, I like the way it just trails off. It's like, you're either one of these three things. No, no, no, no. There is a fourth thing. I just can't remember what it is. But you can categorize all girls into those four creatures. You know, I, I'll leave that to the jurisdiction of girls. Okay. That's outside of my ASEAS. Right. But what's in my aces is this wonderful gay friendship that we're going to be advising first.

I really, I think what I like the most about this letter is this person is describing a friend of theirs who's been miserable dating women and miserable dating men.

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