(Rewind): Was Breaking Up With Him The Right Decision?

Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 2.9K Ratings

🗓️ 16 September 2022

⏱️ 8 minutes

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Summary

You decided it’s time to break up.

And now you’re single again. But for some reason you don’t feel at peace.

You’re still haunted by that eternal question: Did I make a HUGE mistake?

Even if it was YOU who decided to call off a relationship, at some point you’re always going to get that horrible feeling inside of you that questions your decision to dump someone.

Your friends and family say it’s for the best. But maybe they don’t really know. Plus, there was that one friend who advised you to give things another try with this guy and now you’re even more lost and confused!

In this clip, I’m going to show you an easy way to tell whether you made the right choice, and personally guide you out of this anxiety and indecision with simple but powerful change in mindset, so that you feel confident in your feelings and can let a relationship go in peace.

Believe me, I know myself how easy it is to get stuck in this place for months only to come out of it and wonder why you wasted so much of your precious time worrying.

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0:00.0	It's perfectly possible to feel an enormous amount of pain after the relationship,
0:05.7	but that pain doesn't mean you made the wrong decision.
0:09.8	Welcome to the Love Live podcast. It's me, Matthew Hussie. Enjoy this classic clip from our archives.
0:36.2	And if you want to let me know what you think or how this podcast is helping you, don't forget to
0:40.2	leave me a review on iTunes under the Love Live podcast. Enjoy.
0:48.8	For anyone out there who has let someone go, who has ended a relationship, and is questioning
0:55.4	whether they have made the right decision. The first thing I'll say is this, there are usually
1:00.3	20 reasons we could list about why someone might be wrong for us. We could list out their bad
1:07.4	habits. We could list out things that are frustrating us in the relationship. But normally the reason
1:12.8	we're leaving someone boils down to one or two simple truths. And focusing on those truths is what
1:19.6	will allow us to be reassured in our decision. For example, I was talking to her when recently,
1:25.0	and she could probably list many reasons that she wasn't going to be with this person long term.
1:30.5	But the fundamental one was that she felt like she was giving a lot more to the relationship than
1:35.6	he was. The problem is that when we do end it, there's so much fear that enters our body at that
1:42.8	moment. And in the following weeks and months, we begin to question our decision, not because
1:49.0	the reasons for breaking up with that person were wrong. But the fear begins to overshadow
1:55.6	those reasons. And we begin to question ourselves and say, did I really make the right decision?
2:00.0	Maybe I should have given them another chance. Maybe I ended it prematurely. Maybe I'm being too
2:04.8	fussy and I shouldn't be expecting that person to change that thing. But if you knew at the time,
2:10.4	fundamentally, there was a reason you had to end it in that relationship. Understand that it's
2:16.1	perfectly possible to feel an enormous amount of pain after the relationship. But that pain
2:22.9	doesn't mean you made the wrong decision. It can trick us sometimes. When we get lonely enough,
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