Look for those moments where you feel like you're emotionally connected to why this actually is a really exciting new phase.

Welcome to the Love Life podcast with me, Matthew Hussey. Enjoy this clip we've put together for you today. I think you're going to love it.

Does anyone want to kick off with what they think is one of the big things that people need to think about when starting again?

The thing that springs to mind for me is the idea that you talk about on your retreat map of turning your plan B into your plan A.

I think if you're starting over, you're probably not in the position that you wish you were. You're probably not the course that you're going through right now isn't the one you anticipated.

It might not be the one that you wish was happening. I think it's about almost reframing the reality of your situation now.

As a starting point before anything else, so that you can actually go into it without an energy of regret and melancholy towards how you wish things were or should have been, but rather just excitement for what the future has to hold with this new plan B which is now plan A.

I always look at any stage of my life for a role model or inspiration or emotional reference point that kind of aligns with the stage of life I'm in.

I remember when I first watched Guardians of the Galaxy the first one. This is going to sound so silly.

But when I first watched Guardians of the Galaxy, I was single and I had a kind of melancholy at times that I wanted to meet someone but I hadn't met someone that I wanted to really truly be with.

I remember watching Guardians of the Galaxy and Star Lord, Chris Pratt's character, was this sort of single having fun person who was galvanting around the galaxy just making the best of it.

It just stuck with me as like an emotional reference for like, I'm alright, life's exciting and it's fun.

There's Star Lord and he's just got his ship and he's going round and having fun and making the best of it.

It became this weird silly reference point for me for like, it became what I would call on the retreat an emotional button for the stage of life that I was in.

Now that's no longer like that's for me a reference point that's no longer the same.

So my reference point may change or I might have a new emotional button.

But I would, I remember watching the best exotic Marigold Hotel and thinking if I was like in my 50s or 60s right now coming out of a long relationship

and I was finding myself starting again, this movie would be like a fun reference point.

It would, it would fill me with a sense of adventure for this phase of my life.

It would make me feel like anything was still possible. It would excite me and that would be an emotional button for me.

So I feel like whether it's a real person in your life that you know or whether it's a movie reference or a book that you've read that gets you excited about something like to me,

the old man in the sea just by a Hemingway just always makes me feel like I want to just be out on a boat doing something difficult, you know, like like whatever is the reference point for you that makes you feel emotionally connected to the experience.

...