This video is for anyone who gets too caught up on someone, too obsessed, too worked up about the potential of something too quickly.

This is such an important video, it's such a common thing. I'm sure, like me, you have had times in your past or present when you have done this.

And it really is poison to our love lives if we want to find something real and meaningful. So many of you know I have a club, the Love Life Club, where every month I answer questions

live, do coaching with people in this exclusive group.

And this month, one of my members came forward to ask me a question about a guy she had

been obsessing over.

She started with this. Have you seen West Side Story?

And I went, ooh.

Tell me more.

Knife fights.

Homor erotic police officers.

Dancing.

I was waiting for some drama, baby.

But the drama never came. Turns out, this was a gentleman with whom she had exchanged some looks at the gym.

It didn't go much further than that.

There wasn't some big ending to the story, but in these looks that she had exchanged with someone,

looks that she said carried that sense of flirtation and attraction, not just from her side, but from his.

She had built an entire world. She had asked the receptionist for his name because she didn't want to ask him or talk to him.

So she went to the receptionist at the gym

and said, what's that guy's name? And she ended up getting his full name. And then using that

name to go and find out all about who this person was. She even asked a friend of hers who

happened to grow up in the same area as him if she knew him.

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