(Rewind): Don’t Settle For Less. Settle On What You Want

Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 2.9K Ratings

🗓️ 9 September 2022

⏱️ 4 minutes

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Summary

There's a huge difference between settling FOR something in life and settling ON something. When we "settle for" something, it's often the result of us lowering our standards. We accommodate bad behavior and accept less than what we truly desire because we don't think we're worthy of it. We think "this might be as good as it's going to get" whether in our love life, family, or career.

But when we "settle on" something, we take control of it.

At this point, we're deciding that at the very least, this relationship or situation has the potential to meet enough of our criteria for true happiness.

We choose it and actively commit to making it great. What happens next is that we feel connected to it, and as a result, we enjoy the process of sculpting it (even if it's not perfect at first).

In this clip taken from my latest Virtual Retreat, I explain why I'm a big believer in this concept and how it can change your relationship with life.

And if you want to spend 3 days of immersive coaching with me, then I'd love for you to join me for the final Virtual Retreat of the year happening November 11-13.

Here we'll get to work together to help you decide where in life you're "settling for" less than you truly want and where you want to "settle on" sculpting the best version of yourself, your relationships, your career, and your confidence.

Just head over to MHVirtualRetreat.com to learn more.

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0:00.0	Seven
0:03.3	Hey everybody, it's Matthew Hussey with the Love Life podcast.
0:31.4	I am excited to share this clip with you today.
0:35.0	Let's get into it.
0:39.5	I don't believe in settling for, I believe in settling on.
0:44.2	When you settle on something, you resign yourself to making that thing great.
0:51.1	Now, we can't settle on anything in life.
0:56.6	We can't settle on anyone in life.
0:58.7	I certainly wouldn't be telling you to settle on someone who's abusive.
1:01.8	And I certainly wouldn't be telling you to settle on someone with whom you have absolutely
1:05.1	zero sexual chemistry, or with whom you have nothing in common, with whom you have completely
1:15.4	opposing life outlooks that aren't compatible.
1:19.9	I don't believe that you can settle on any profession in a company that has a culture of
1:26.3	art holes, or in work that is completely devoid of meaning to you, or doesn't cater to
1:35.6	a single aspect of your personality or strength or what you might be interested in.
1:42.9	But do I think you can settle on many more careers than you ever truly acknowledged?
1:50.7	I absolutely do.
1:54.1	So, the antidote to that feeling of, oh my God, there's not enough time and there's
2:01.9	so much to do.
2:02.9	And if I truly understand that there isn't time, then I have to start making real choices.
2:11.2	Instead of just trying to mindlessly cram it all in, I need to start making real decisions.
2:17.6	The good news, the antidote to that, is that those decisions aren't the end of the world
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