What happened to the man that I married? He was so affectionate. We talked for hours and he loved to make me laugh.

I wish you were a better father and spiritual leader. He never listens to me. It's hard for me to respect my husband right now.

It's not unusual to feel disappointed or let down by your spouse, but how does that color your daily interactions? We're going to talk about that today on Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, and I'm John Fuller. You know, John, when Gene and I did our premarital counseling, which is a good thing to do, by the way, if you're in that spot, do premarital counseling. But we were like so in love, and we were saying, we're so much alike. Isn't it crazy?

How much alike we are. And then, of course, we got married. And then like 18 months in, we're going,

we're not very much alike, are we? And what happens as an illustration with our marriages is we

learn that those different things begin to irritate us. And whether

it's the proverbial toothpaste squeeze at the middle rather than the end or night out morning

person or whatever it might be, these things can grow into irritants. Now, those are the lighthearted

ones, but then you add the emotional disconnection with

some couples and you just stall and you decide not to put the effort in anymore even for us

as believers and we should know better, but we're human and we fail at that at times and we just

stop tending the garden and the weeds grow.

And today we're going to talk about some really important things of tending that garden

of your marriage and making sure that both husband and wife are pouring in so that you can

have an amazing marriage in Christ.

Well, we're glad to have Dave and Ann Wilson with us to unpack this topic and go deep on the importance

of that communication and keeping it good.

Dave and Ann were the founders and pastors at Kennington Community Church, and Dave was chaplain

for the Detroit Lions football team.

In the past several years, they've been hosting Family Life Today, a fellow sister, I guess, radio show and podcast to help families. We're going to hear about a book that Anne has written and Dave has contributed to called How to Speak Life to Your Husband, when all you want to do is yell at him. I want to say, Dave, what did you contribute to that? Go ahead. Not much. I'll tell you that. Yeah, well, before we get

going, let me just say we've got copies of the book here at the ministry, and you'll find the details in the show notes. And, and Dave, welcome back to focus. It's so good to be here. Yeah, it's good to have here. You guys are in Orlando now, right? Yeah, family life moved. Last time we're here, we're in Little Rock now, we're in Orlando. It's pretty nice. It was so funny, Bob Lapine, who co-hosted with Dennis Rainey. I remember you came up with, somebody came up with that idea on April Fool's Day that we opened your show and they opened our show. And people, I mean, people were like, what, I thought I got focused. We had a lot of radio operators thinking, I got the wrong show loaded. Yeah, I thought that was a great trick. It was fun. That was a lot of fun. And let me start with you. This, you know, this book title could be very intimidating for wives, particularly. I mean, when you look at it, how to speak life to your husband when all you want to do is yell at him. And let me just see the hands of the women listening or watching on

YouTube. Raise your hand. And, you know, I think you're aiming this obviously at wives, but it really

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