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So it is days after my mother passed away.

And this has been an incredible journey.

I have realized that people don't really talk about death and grief in a digestible way. I'm finding that out from a lot of people.

I'm finding out, I mean, I've never had a response to anything like I've had to divorce and death.

And I'm seeing that there are a lot of similarities and not just parallels, but like these two topics are converging

because many people have chosen certain types of partners as a result of their childhood.

And the types of messages that I'm getting are about generational trauma, meaning, you know,

the parents that you had and the dynamics that you experienced as a child, if they were

traumatic or very damaging, and then really getting into thinking about their childhoods.

And there's anger and there's confusion and there's compassion and there's being closed off.

And I mentioned that I literally have lived nowhere but in my childhood for the first time in 45 years in so many different ways.

And you kind of put it all through a strainer. And with any

luck, you end up with the good because you end up being compassionate about the fact that if

someone was so miserable that they would abuse you and be mean to you and abuse themselves

and be self-destructive. You know, they're

filled with toxins, emotional toxins, physical toxins, disease and addictions. And like, they cannot

contain it. And so they dump it on you. And I realize that, you know, parents dump so much

on their children, even good parents, and the kids wear

it. And you have to be very aware of that. And I want to also talk about motherhood more. And I want to

talk about some stuff that has been happening with myself and my daughter. But basically,

the letters that I've been getting and the emails, I've never, I mean, divorce, it's been

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