The hard part is that everyone tells you a baby changes everything, and I think we don't know how to

kind of wrap our heads around how much motherhood changes you, and that change is just hard.

The active change is easy. The feelings that a company

change are so difficult. Cleo Wade is someone who just has a way with words. She's an author

and a poet and in her latest book, Remember Love, she reminds everyone who may be feeling lost or overwhelmed by change to return to love.

That self-love is what saves us, and that's especially true in our journey as parents.

I'm Dr. Becky, and this is good inside. There are so many different

things I want to talk to about. So I don't know. I'll just begin here. In your recent book,

Remember Love, which is so exciting, you really focus on recovery and you talk about really kind of reclaiming yourself.

Let's start with that. Well, as I was writing this book, I kind of, in a way that was very different than any other kind of way I approached writing before is I really felt like,

okay, I kind of tried to place myself back to moments in my life where I felt that I was

stumbling around in the dark, looking for a light, and realized I had to turn it on within

myself. And I tried to figure out how to follow those breadcrumbs and remember that no matter how faint

that kind of light feels it is still there. There's this one page that actually started out as a

joke really where I write about how there's the old Motel 6 commercial that's like,

we'll leave the light on for you. But that actually, in some of my

toughest moments, whether it was really contemplating, repacing my life, you know, when I found

that my life was moving at a pace where I couldn't find or access freedom and joy, even though I was attaining a lot of exterior goals.

And so when I felt that I lost track of myself or I felt that I couldn't feel like myself in moments of whether that was postpartum depression or high, high key anxiety, I kind of hear that voice, we'll leave the light on for you.

And I really kind of would always think, how did I, you know, the light has been left on in there

somewhere for me.

And so much of this book is how I journeyed back and finding it, whether it was through

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