Every person has three different types of gifts. There's your humanity, which is who you are as a person.

That's what shows up in those helping moments, wherein you're with somebody you love and you want to be there.

There's your wisdom, what you've learned from the unique life that you've lived that nobody else will ever have access to, and then there's your talent, which is all the great things you know how to do or you want to learn how to do.

And the funny thing is, though, is that your humanity gifts are the most

reliable source of happiness because they connect you to other people and they allow you to express all of your

inner goodness. So if we neglect those then often we're

neglecting a really big source of well-being.

So what if the pursuit of happiness itself is actually making you less happy?

My guest today, Stephanie Harrison, she challenges the way that we've been conditioned to think about happiness in her new book, New Happy, Getting Happiness Right in a world that's

got it wrong.

In the second chapter of her book, she introduces the concept of what she calls, The Happiness

Myth.

It's all about the lies that we have been told about how to be happy, like chasing achievements,

accumulating wealth, and focusing only on ourselves, and so many other elements, and she describes

from her own experience directly aiming for

happiness often backfires yet that is exactly what so many of us spend so much of our

waking lives doing I found that my own life that the more I cling to

happiness as a direct goal the more elusive it becomes and Stephanie really

encourages us to unravel the cultural conditioning and narratives that led us to this point.

Instead of pursuing happiness, she offers a refreshing approach that's centered around sharing

our unique gifts with others, our humanity, wisdom, and talents, with a really interesting

and innovative new framework.

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