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The pain of discovering that your spouse has been unfaithful is like being stabbed.

It's going to leave a scar, but even then there's still hope for you in your marriage.

I'm John Fuller along with Dr. Greg and Aaron Smalley and they run

the Focus on the Family Marriage Department. This is a heavy topic, affairs and we want to approach

it carefully. Greg, what's your first advice in terms of confession?

So if a spouse has had an affair, should they confess that, how should that go that go yet 100% you should tell your spouse we've had this debate with people before in

your spouse has every right to know because this is a marriage issue and they have every right to decide if they want to stay in this marriage.

Otherwise, you deciding what they should or should know can or cannot handle is about you your fear

which is I get it I mean that's scary to think that they may leave but they have

every right to know otherwise that's total manipulation and that never is going to work.

Well I think God honors an honest heart even an honest heart with a terrible thing to share.

We're gonna hear now as Gary and Mona Shriver discuss

with Jim Daly about the day that Gary Shriver

confessed to Mona that he had had an affair.

Mona, I mean we have loaded the situation for you to speak to the pain in your heart the day that Gary comes home or wherever it was you knew you had that

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