Welcome to the Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast. Our intention is to awaken, enlighten, enrich, and inspire a simple and uncomplicated life.

Discover the benefits of mindful living with your host, Timber Hawkeye.

I remember crying in my room as a kid after my parents beat me. I would sit there with tears in my eyes waiting for them to

come back and comfort me. And after a student at school would bully me, the teacher

would tell him to apologize to me.

I think it developed an illogical pattern of expecting whoever broke something to come back and fix it.

But we can't sit around waiting for the person who caused the hurt to also be the one to console us.

I mean, I've seen people wait for decades for an apology that will never come,

holding on to their pain and resentment like it's precious.

The wound may not be our fault, but healing from it is most certainly our responsibility.

So I say take that power back and move forward.

Now people say offensive things to me all the time and I just choose not to be offended.

You see if we don't give away our power in the first place,

then we don't need to later fight just to get it back. Choosing to get angry,

frustrated, hurt, or upset is a far more detrimental choice than we think.

It's a complete waste of our power, which is why we often feel powerless to do anything about it. And then to add insult to injury we

expect the very people who were careless to do the mending. I mean it's like

getting upset with a puppy for being a puppy and peeing on the floor and then expecting the puppy to also clean it up.

We decide how long we're going to let what hurt us haunt us.

As soon as I realized how unreasonable I was being, a sense of humor with it all helped me create a new pattern without beating myself up about how I used to handle situations in my life.

And if I slip from time to time and momentarily

blame someone else for how I'm choosing to feel, I just laugh it off. If other

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