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This is John Fuller along with Dr. Greg Smalley and his wife Aaron Smalley and you know outward

anger toward our spouse is usually an indicator that something is wrong inside us and that's an ouch moment

that truth hurts it seems like when I get agitated or irritated or I snap at Dina my wife it usually upon reflection

is because I'm mad about something else or I'm unsettled about something else

or I'm feeling kind of inadequate or inept in the relationship.

We're going to hear more from Pastor Ted Cunningham today. He spoke to Jim Daly and

me about how to let go of the anger that we all feel sometimes in our marriage.

The scripture talks a lot about anger and it says in some ways people would interpret

it to say it's okay to be angry just don't let the sun go down on your anger

deconstruct that scripture force what is that really getting at is it okay for me as a

spouse as a husband to be mad throughout the day as long as I say I'm sorry at night?

Yeah I don't I don't think the issue is anger I think the issue is unresolved anger.

Know why you're getting angry what you're getting angry, what you're getting angry for.

So I get angry as we should over injustice.

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