Welcome to Manager Tools. Today's topic, Resistent Directs in One-on- Ones. Here we go. One of the most frequent questions we get from folks has got to be particularly when it comes to one on ones right is what do we do about the direct who doesn't want to have them?

We just walk away, right? It's like feedback.

Yeah, it's right. Shot across the bow. Just walk away. No problem, dude. You don't want to meet with me? It's all good. Yeah. And look, when we hear that question, you know, there's a part of us that discounts the idea behind it.

You know, no worries folks, we promise we'll answer it, but there certainly are some managers who, after having bought into an idea, will

then project themselves forward and attempt to figure out problems they can foresee happening.

You know, I know that's some of the managers who are asking this question.

But aren't those managers in the vast majority of cases just creating artificial

roadblocks around the idea that, I want to do this but my team won't tolerate it from me right it won't work for me because my team won't tolerate it. I mean it seems like an artificial roadblock to me yeah I think I think what it is

is people are intellectually defending their own state and I think there is a healthy

bit of the of the manager of any professional population who believe that change proves that what they were doing before was wrong.

And so they have to defend where they are.

And you put that together with changes hard and they say, well, my directs won't like it.

We even talked to a manager once who told us his team would never go for one on ones

After several of his directs who were managers were already doing them with their directs because of our

Podcasts right it's Right, there's this cognitive dissonance, right?

Being willing to create, like you say, a truly artificial reality

to support the worldview you already have and yeah I really think that this is a

false defense attempting to throw up all possible roadblocks to the idea.

Right, okay, so hopefully folks are not making this up and they're willing to try doing

one-on-ones with their folks.

But what about those folks who go do one-on-ones with their folks, but what about those folks who go do one-on-ones with their folks?

They start to do them and they get resistance. What about those folks? What do we do there

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