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And thanks so much for your support. Hello and welcome back to Big Mood Little Mood. I'm your host, Danny Lavery, and with me in the studio this week is Molly West Duffy, an expert in organizational and

leadership development. She's the co-author of the best-selling book, No Heart Feelings,

The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work, and Big Feelings, How to Be Okay,

when Things Are Not Okay. Molly, welcome to the show.

Thank you. Thanks for having me.

I'm so looking forward to it, not least, because, you know, I think I've been able to supply you with plenty of feelings in the letters today. Although I don't think any of them have a lot to do with work. So, you know, my apology is there for taking us a little bit outside of your wheelhouse. But there's definitely big feelings, lots of feelings, complicated relationships

between feelings. I don't know how these letters struck you and you saw them all in a row.

I definitely feel like I stepped back and was like, wow, this is big.

Yeah, they are big. And it's such a good reminder that, you know, we're all going through things

and that what

you see on the surface is not always what is actually happening. Yeah, I think there's so much about

this that feels like a sort of Rorschach test, especially these first two letters where I felt,

I don't always feel this way, but I felt with almost immediate clarity in letters number one and two, oh, I see this very differently from our letter writer.

Not necessarily in the sense of, oh, I think our letter writer is doing something wrong or has like the wrong perspective.

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