Research From Princeton: 13 Proven Hacks That Boost Your Influence & Make You More Confident

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🗓️ 10 August 2023

⏱️ 53 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, you’re getting a crash course in 13 essential hacks that will help you be more successful, and they’re backed by surprising research out of Princeton. Vanessa Van Edwards is the founder of the behavior lab The Science of People, a behavioral investigator, body language expert, and bestselling author who specializes in the kind of science-based people skills most of us never hear about. Vanessa’s research proves that anyone can learn these practical skills, earn the trust of others around them, and become more confident, competent, and reliable. News flash: You don’t have to be an extrovert to be successful. Whether you want to be a better leader, land your dream job, achieve big goals, or align your life with what you want, this is the episode for you. Listen, and you'll learn: 3 things you must do in the first ten seconds of a Zoom call to appear trustworthy and reliable How to nail any interview by building unstoppable confidence Why do you keep getting passed over for a promotion? The words you need to get the bonus or raise you deserve Why a second impression is just as important as the first How a fake smile will ruin your reputation The simple mistake we all make when asking for what we want How do you spot a liar? This is an encore episode that is packed with tools, tips, and scripts to boost your chances of success. With new and exciting insights from me at the top of the episode, you will leave feeling more confident for your next interview, first date, or wherever you are upleveling in your life. You owe it to yourself to learn how to cultivate unstoppable confidence and influence, and you can do that in just a few minutes. Xo, Mel In this episode, you’ll learn: 2:23: The shocking research from Princeton about how people size you up. 4:50: What exactly IS charisma and what does it look like? 6:58: Why high achievers can’t just rely on their intelligence. 8:15: Two types of awkward people and how to tell. 14:14: Are you highly competent? Look for these three signs. 16:42: What highly competent people are missing. 21:27: What highly warm people are missing. 23:58: The ONE thing you need to do in the first 10 seconds of your Zoom call. 28:06: A simple test that will help you figure out how charismatic you are. 32:10: The reason why you keep getting passed over for that promotion. 40:08: Why you should never fake a smile. 46:02: Three ways you can start building your charisma today. 47:42: Why a second impression is as important as the first. 51:07: Five silent cues to command respect in any situation. Disclaimer

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0:00.0	Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robyn's podcast.
0:07.8	Oh boy, are you and I in for a treat today?
0:12.5	I am super excited to talk to the expert that I have tracked down and gotten on the show for both
0:19.1	of us. We are going to talk about the hacks and tips and tricks and research that you can put
0:27.1	to use in your own life so that you appear more confident to other people. How cool is that?
0:34.4	See, I wanted to do this topic now because here in the United States anyway, it's going to be
0:40.5	September soon and fall is always like this second new year. A lot of people go back to school,
0:48.4	they go back to work, they think about going to different jobs, they think about changing up
0:53.4	their life in September and so I thought right now is the time for you to have in your back pocket
1:00.4	the best research, the best tools and the best scripts that you can use to do a number of things.
1:06.4	Wait till you hear the amount of things you're going to learn today. First of all, you're going
1:10.2	to learn that there are three things based on the research that you must do in the first 10 seconds
1:16.0	of a Zoom call. I bet you didn't even know that there were three things you needed to do. I didn't
1:20.7	either. We're going to give you tips for nailing an interview. You're going to learn why you keep
1:25.8	getting passed over for the promotion and what you can do next time to make sure you get paid
1:31.3	what you deserve and you get the promotion that you've been working hard for. You're going to learn
1:35.2	that a second impression is just as important as the first impression that you make. You're going to
1:40.4	learn why you should never ever ever fake a smile. A simple test that you can use to learn what
1:48.4	people think about you in the first impression. You're going to hear the major mistake a lot of
1:54.7	people make when they speak, how to ask for a raise, how to be better at selling. So buckle up
2:01.1	because this is going to be an episode you're going to want to bookmark. If you are in real estate,
2:05.7	if you are running your own business, if you have one of the social selling or multi-level marketing
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