On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, everyone.

I am Brandon Chadwick, and today we are going to be discussing triangulation.

Triangulation specifically when it comes to the abuser types from Lundy Bancroft's book.

Why does he do that?

And we're also going to discuss triangulation when it comes to parent-child and parent-parent-child as well. But before we get to

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So today we are going to talk about triangulation. So what is triangulation? Triangulation refers to a subtle or direct

manipulation tactic by creating and maintaining conflicts where one person, the triangulator,

typically orchestrates this manipulation. Their goal is to avoid direct interactions by

pitting two people against one another.

And this is what is considered to be the standard version of triangulation when it comes to an

abusive relationship. But to me, and this is just me, I am no therapist. I am no PhD in psychology. Triangulation isn't just

pitting people against each other. And in my mind, the triangle doesn't have to include a third

person. It can be an object. It can be an organization. It can be people that are not alive anymore.

It can even be God if you are a believer in God. The Bible is

something that can be used as a triangulation tactic. So in my mind, as long as someone or something

can complete that triangle, in my mind that is triangulation. Typically, there is limited communication or no communication between the two triangulated parties

except through the person doing the manipulating, the triangulator.

However, there are exceptions to this rule, especially if the triangulator needs someone else to do

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