Pam & The Manipulative Jealous Abuser | Domestic Violence & Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse

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Self-improvement, Education, Society & Culture, Relationships

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🗓️ 18 August 2025

⏱️ 104 minutes

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In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Pam shares her experience of being married to a jealous partner. Pam was a rule follower, and her new partner gave her permission to stop following everyone else’s rules, only to manipulate her into following his. And after Pam got pregnant, her life became a roller coaster of abuse that she couldn’t escape. It’s a story of isolation, mental health issues, intergenerational trauma, truth tellers, addiction, physical abuse, suicidal ideation, financial abuse, in-laws, support, demands, control, threats, accusations, custody, divorce, and escape plans. *** CONTENT WARNING - We discuss physical abuse and suicidal ideation in this episode. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or send us an email at [email protected] PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Covert Narcissism Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Bitch is a Bad Word | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ When Dating Hurts Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.domesticshelters.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our new Community Social Network at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Instagram Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Youtube Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we talk with an abuse survivor named Pam, and Pam was married to a jealous, manipulative abuser.
0:10.1	It's a story of isolation, addiction, control, restraining orders, and mental health.
0:44.3	Thank you. health. Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone. I am Brandon Chadwick, and with me today we have Pam. How are you?
0:46.7	I am good. How are you?
0:53.3	I'm doing well. Thank you for asking and thank you for being here. And if you want to be a guest like Pam is today,
1:11.8	please do go to our website at Narcissistapocalypse.com and click on the guest form button at the top of the page. There, you can read all of our instructions, and please read them all. And either send us an email at Narcissist Apocalypse at gmail.com or fill out our guest form and press the submit button, And please do send it in the format that we ask for.
1:18.5	And we do have a content warning for this episode as we do discuss physical abuse and suicidal ideation in this episode.
1:21.0	So that is your content warning for today.
1:23.2	And today you're going to hear Pam's story. And Pam was in a relationship with a manipulator, a schemer, a person that has an excuse for
1:29.2	everything, and they are also very controlling and jealous. And we are happy Pam is alive in sharing
1:35.6	her story today to validate your experience. So a big thank you to Pam for being here today,
1:40.7	and I'm going to get it of my way and your way. Pam, the floor is now yours.
1:47.7	Right. So a little background on myself. So I was actually born in the Philippines and immigrated
1:52.7	here at the age of 15. At the point in time that I grew up in the Philippines, it's a little
1:59.1	taboo to have divorce parents. So I did have
2:02.0	that. My parents were separated. And actually divorce is not, to this day, not legal in the Philippines.
2:07.3	So I did grow up with my extended family. I had a strong maternal background. My family is,
2:14.2	you know, my grandmother, my mom. My mom is the only daughter of six siblings.
2:18.7	And so all my uncles were there,
2:20.4	but they all looked up to her.
2:21.6	She was the middle child,
2:22.6	but she is the one that they all looked up to.
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