On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, everyone.

I am Brandon Chadwick, and today we are going to discuss the benefits an abuser

gets from their abusive behavior. But before we get to that, if you want to be a guest on our

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the benefits and abuser gets from their abusive behavior, why it is desirable to them,

what are the rewards, and how do these things get reinforced. And the information today is

coming from Lundy Bancroft's book. Why does he do that?

It is a wonderful book. We've done episodes from parts of this book before. So please go by this

book. It is a very good book for anyone who is experiencing abuse and is trying to figure out

what is going on or even in the aftermath to really understand what has

happened and who you are dealing with in the who what wears and whys of everything.

So here is an example from why does he do that by Lundy Bancroft and it's all about the setting

that happens in the kitchen, about abusive behavior that

happens, and then the next time they're in this kitchen in the exact same scenario.

So in this example, a parent, and most likely the husband, is having dinner with their

spouse and kids.

The abuser is irritable, criticizing everybody during the meal.

And when the abuser finishes eating, they leave the table abruptly. And then someone at the table

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