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Hey everybody. It's Nick Layton. And it's Leah Bonima. And we had so many great questions from you all in the wilderness.

Oh! That we have a bonus episode. So. Layton. And it's Leah Bonima. And we had so many great questions from you all in the wilderness. Aoo!

That we have a bonus episode, so here we go. Our first question is, quote,

One of my close friends of over a decade is getting married next year. I've been dating my boyfriend

for about seven years now, and I texted my friend asking for more details on the wedding,

as travel plans need to be made. She specified that my boyfriend is not invited to the wedding

as we are not married. She said that he will only receive an invite after she hears back from

other people, essentially only if she receives noes from the first tier of guests.

Is it rude to tell someone that their significant other is second tier?

I want to have a polite yet direct conversation with her as my feelings are hurt to know that she doesn't consider my relationship important enough for an invitation.

What should I say?

Let me say out loud what I would say and then we'll discuss if that, I don't mean it to be a backwards way of going into something, but this is what I would want to say.

Okay, what's your first instinct?

My first instinct would be to say, and not in a passive aggressive way, just I would mean it directly like, hey, I'm not going to go if he can't come.

Because even though we're not married, we have been together for seven years.

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