REPOST: 331-Why Duty Sex Hurts Him (& Her)
Delight Your Marriage
Belah Rose
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🗓️ 18 November 2022
⏱️ 38 minutes
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Summary
Often preparing for Thanksgiving is the real STRESS.
So -- guess what!? Make love now, so you have a connected, peaceful, and truly enjoyable Thanksgiving next week.
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Duty sex…this is such a huge challenge for SO many couples - on both sides of the aisle!
Husbands and wives, how does our personal approach to sexual intimacy affect our spouse?
Does sexual intimacy within our marriage lead us toward one another or away from one another?
And if it often or sometimes leads us away from each other, is that our Creator's intention? How do we fix this? Can it be fixed?
The fact of the matter is, the answers to these questions can be hard to come by! There just isn't a lot of guidance out there for couples who want a God-honoring sexual relationship in their marriage!
If sexual intimacy is a gift from our Creator - and we know that ALL of His gifts are good - then why is this area of our lives so often filled with hurt and pain?
Does it really matter whose fault it is? Playing the blame game doesn't fix the problem, does it. Can one spouse change the dynamics in our marriages? YES - a thousand times, YES!! We've seen it! We've experienced it!
Here at Delight Your Marriage, God has blessed Belah with a lot of really good advice and encouragement for couples in this specific arena. Yes! There are principles that we can learn and apply to help us grow in our relationships - not just in the area of sexual intimacy, but in the overall connection within our marriage. This is what Delight Your Marriage is all about!
Okay, now this is THE bonus piece of information here that we hope you don't miss because it can be cliche or common to our ears: THE key of loving others well is to be filled up with Jesus' love and to lean into loving Him well! He IS love! As we grow in His love, the fruit of the Spirit becomes more abundant in OUR lives! I Cor. 14:1 "Pursue love…"
Would you pause right there and snatch that and think on it for a bit? I'm dead serious!
You know, we're similar to a tree. Have you seen a branch on a tree that is partly broken off? What does the branch generally look like? A lot of times the leaves are shriveling up, right? The health of the branch is directly correlated to how well the branch is connected to the trunk of the tree.
Are we feeling shriveled up? Are we feeling unfruitful? Are we struggling to experience the abundant life that Jesus has offered to us? …That's a good gauge that we need to check our attachment to The Vine.
Do you need some guidance, accountability, and encouragement to grow in these areas? We want to help you!
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We are not currently offering a free men's course, as this is a repost of this episode, but we do invite you to schedule a free Clarity Call with our course advisor. This is an opportunity for you to be heard...to share your story, to evaluate where you are in your marriage and life journey, and whether or not our courses may be the right fit for you or not.
We love you and wish you a peaceful and grateful-filled Thanksgiving!!
On behalf of Belah and the rest of our team,
Darcy
Office Manager
PS From a Masculinity Reclaimed graduate:
"Today my wife and I celebrate our … Anniversary, and thanks be to God our marriage is better than it has ever been. As I sat this morning writing my daily gratitude's and LTP's (going strong), I am overcome with gratitude for how helpful your ministry has been.
Going through the program last fall was truly one of the most transformational hinge times in my life - first drawing myself closer to the Lord, and only from that coming first did we experience some unbelievable changes in our marriage.
By Gods grace, we've always had a "good" marriage - free from major issues or troubles, but since have learned how wonderful God really intends for this union to be. Ups and downs persist, they always will, but DYM has helped show me the tools & knowledge to navigate them and have a thriving and God honoring marriage.
I am forever thankful for DYM. Thank you for following your calling and your dedication. Have a wonderful weekend and God bless!!!"
We share these testimonies because God is SO good and He wants good in your marriage, too! We want to inspire hope and faith in you! Nothing is too difficult for Him!
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Delight Your Marriage podcast. |
| 0:05.0 | You're joining me, Bella Rose, as I dive deep into the beauty, power, and truths about intimacy. |
| 0:11.0 | Learn not only the practicals, but the heart behind what making love is all about. |
| 0:17.0 | Delight your marriage. |
| 0:19.0 | All right, welcome. Delight your marriage. |
| 0:24.0 | All right. Welcome. |
| 0:28.7 | My name's Bella, and if this is your first time, I want to say thank you. |
| 0:31.7 | I am beyond excited to talk about this topic. |
| 0:34.0 | It's something I have planned for a while. |
| 0:39.8 | And if you have been with the podcast for a while, I want to say, I'm excited to be back. |
| 0:48.3 | I just finished a sabbatical, and it has been such a joy rejoining this work and serving you all. It's amazing to hear from you and to hear what God is doing in your lives and your marriages through this work. |
| 0:56.0 | It's astounding through our team. |
| 0:58.4 | The team is amazing, as you may have heard last week. |
| 1:01.5 | And what we're excited about that's coming down the pike is the men's masculinity |
| 1:08.1 | reclaimed foundations course. |
| 1:10.0 | This is a free course, but it's based on our three-month |
| 1:12.9 | flagship program masculinity reclaimed. So if you have listened to any of the transformation |
| 1:18.4 | stories, you know that this thing is amazing what God does through it. And again, we give God |
| 1:24.6 | all the glory and we just have the opportunity to serve through a system, |
| 1:30.2 | through a strategy. |
| 1:31.0 | And so this is a free masculinity to reclaimed foundations course. |
| 1:35.9 | And it's going on March 28th. |
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