Hello and welcome back to practicing human, the podcast where every day we're getting a little better at life.

I'm your host, Corey Mascara, and in today's episode, we're going to talk about reparenting yourself.

More to come on that in a moment. First, let's settle in together with the sound of the bells.

Okay, so many of us growing up didn't receive the security, the parenting, the caregiving, the love, and the foundation for feeling seen and safe that maybe we wish we would have that we actually most needed as human beings.

This can be severe forms of abandonment, but it could also be smaller forms of

maybe having parents or caregivers who were misattuned to us

or different needs that weren't met.

Or just this sense of perhaps having to be a certain version of someone in order to get love or to be accepted.

And this can play a big role in our mental health and what

unfolds from childhood. If some of these basic needs weren't there for us, we may find

ourselves caught in patterns where we're trying to get certain things from other people,

or we don't trust people because we didn't get it from the

people who we were supposed to trust the most, or we have a complicated relationship to things

like intimacy or love or expressing boundaries or sharing our needs. And as I said, a lot of this

stems from some of those early years in our life.

So what do we do about this if we've had this experience?

And perhaps we're not able to repair some of those relationships with our caregivers

or the damage was done, so to speak.

And now we're left with what happened and the residual of that in some of these patterns.

If we're not able to get that parenting in the way that we most needed it, what are we left with?

Well, the good news is there are many people who have had this experience and have come out the other

side stronger and have developed a quality of stability and safety within themselves.

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