I'm no good. I take in good advice. And I'm self-careless. So don't tell me twice that lately I've been so

stuck in my head that I forget just about everything my therapist said. Maybe I'm self-helpless.

Hey everyone. Welcome to self-helpless. I'm Delaney Fisher. And today I'm self-helpless. Hey, everyone.

Welcome to Self-Hupless.

I'm Delaney Fisher.

And today I'm chatting with Sam Laura Brown, who is the host of the podcast, the

Perfectionism Project and founder of Perfectionist Getting Shit Done.

And although Sam specializes in working with entrepreneurs and business owners around

perfectionism.

The stuff that we are talking about today is applicable to everybody.

So we are simply using entrepreneurship as an example throughout the conversation to

discuss how to work with perfectionistic tendencies.

But you can plug this into your personal life, your hobbies, your job, parenting,

etc. Anything that makes sense for you. Perfectionism is considered a personality trait. I think it's

important to distinguish the difference between healthy or adaptive perfectionism and unhealthy

or maladaptive perfectionism. We're not saying that anybody who is excited to do things at a high

standard or your goal to achieve excellence at something is a problem. It's not for everybody.

So adaptive perfectionism can involve, you know, setting high standards and striving for excellence,

but you have flexibility.

You are less critical in your approach to making mistakes or having unmet expectations.

On the other end of the spectrum, maladaptive perfectionism, is marked by unrealistic expectations,

really intense self-criticism, and having a hard time adapting or accepting

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