Relax? What's That?
Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
Timber Hawkeye
4.8 • 907 Ratings
🗓️ 15 July 2017
⏱️ 6 minutes
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Summary
We can only use the problem-solving tools we've got, which is why it's best to have a wide selection instead of just one. Those with only a hammer try to solve everything by beating it to death (not an ideal solution in circumstances that call for a gentle touch), but those with only a white glove are equally ill-equipped in situations that call for elbow grease. So how many tools do you have in your belt? Can you be gentle yet assertive without being aggressive? Loving, kind, and compassionate but never hateful? Because as Maya Angelou said, "Hate has caused many problems in the world, but hasn't solved one yet." Learn the tools of nonviolent communication to use in some situations, for example, and quiet contemplation in others. Gasoline is great for starting a fire but terrible at putting it out. Namaste.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast. Our intention is to awaken, enlighten, enrich, and inspire a simple and uncomplicated life. |
| 0:18.0 | Discover the benefits of mindful living with your host, Timber Hawkeye. |
| 0:36.3 | When someone is stressed out, telling them to relax isn't very helpful if they have no idea what relaxed looks or even feels like. They might go as far as defend their stress as the appropriate response to the situation |
| 0:40.9 | they're in, especially if that's their habitual way of responding to most circumstances in life. |
| 0:47.0 | It all depends on what kind of tools we've picked up along the way and have at our disposal. |
| 0:52.0 | One person may have patience or inner peace in their |
| 0:55.3 | tool belt which they are ready to use and apply in any situation, while someone else |
| 1:00.4 | only has anger and frustration so they try to solve their problems with the only tools they've got, often making them worse. |
| 1:08.0 | Like my friend Scott, who has very little patience, but a lot of money, so when he has a problem, he tries to throw money at it to make it go away. |
| 1:16.1 | Except it never truly goes away, because the true problem is his impatience. |
| 1:21.2 | I hate to admit it, but it's entertaining to watch him try to |
| 1:24.8 | quench his thirst with sand, so to speak. As I often say, the problem isn't |
| 1:29.9 | annoying people or frustrating situations. |
| 1:33.2 | It's that you keep getting annoyed and frustrated. |
| 1:36.0 | Solve that problem and you'll see them as just people and situations because that's all they are. |
| 1:41.9 | The goal isn't to create a bubble in which nobody pushes our buttons, |
| 1:46.0 | but to mature and evolve enough so that we have no buttons that can be pushed. |
| 1:50.0 | I've heard it said that if all you've got is a hammer then everything starts looking like a nail. |
| 1:56.0 | If you're extremely judgmental in one situation for example, then you're likely judgmental in all others as well. |
| 2:02.0 | It's your tool of choice so to speak, or |
| 2:04.9 | perhaps complaining is your go-to instrument, or anger, frustration, |
| 2:09.5 | or even joy, which is also an option, through which you find ways to actually enjoy every situation, no matter how different it may be from what you had in mind. |
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