Hi my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

What's your thoughts on jealousy? Do you feel like jealousy and insecurity is a sign that someone loves you or is it a toxic on healthy trait?

A lot of people do seem to find some degree of jealousy

sexy right just because it's like oh this person really cares about me like they

really care what I'm doing. Did they really care about you or they more insecure

about themselves?

My feelings on jealousy is that it's a naturally evolved human emotion, right?

It's one of the many pieces of evidence that we are a, let's say a serially monogamous

ape and I'm not alone in thinking that by the way you know

Helen Fisher wrote a very good book on this and there are plenty of academics who agree with me

I also know that there are plenty of academics who disagree and but humans have a evolved psychological

adaptation to feel jealous when they see threats to their partners

fidelity so it's like if you see a super hot guy talking to your fiance that might be like

what it be protective or yeah you're like this is this is an ideal right right and

same as same for her you know you go to an event and you know a bunch of girls want your autograph or whatever

she might be you know and she seems like a very secure person as well but she

might be internally be like this is not this is not the ideal situation right

right and that is that is a evolved psychological adaptation to, in your case, protect

paternity and in her case, protect investment. A lot of people don't understand the

evolution, like the evolutionary psychology of men's jealousy is very clear it's a clear story

if someone else is sleeping with your girlfriend you might end up raising a kid

that's not yours right so that's a pretty clear narrative

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