Hi my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the daily motivation show.

Today when you say open relationships or non-managamous relationships or periodically

non-managamous or monogamous shall at Dan Savage or you know or polyamorousorous, people will say,

can't work, impossible.

The fact is monogamy is the new frontier.

But you can have it as negotiated through divorce

or through what most people have always done which is proclaimed monogamy and clandestine

adultery or you can do it through a model of transparency in which people have consensual

non-monogony.

This is it. This is the options.

Right. What do you think is going to be working the most for people?

There are some people who really need stable committed monogamous relationships.

They don't want open doors.

And there are other people for which open doors probably should be the model from the start.

That's kind of who they are, that's their curiosity, that's the way they live their life,

and it's not because they're less committed or less loving,

it's because their sexuality is organized in a certain way and it

lives together with a certain arrangement and all of that is going to be

redefined as we go along. You have to look at it from the place of before marriage.

A Swedish philosopher said, today monogamy only exists in reality. It doesn't exist in your memories and it doesn't exist in your

fantasies. It's very simple that by definition we have multiple sex partners before marriage. We are not monogamous anymore in the

traditional sense of the world. The world has been in flux and we don't really know

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